Inspiration

My whole life I have been taught to make people happy first and put my self second. Just recently I have realized that it is pointless to put my self second because the only person in this world that can ultimately make happy everyday is myself. I realized this last weekend when I was at a NOW conference in Seneca Falls, NY. I met this amazing woman that just has a zest for life. I refer to her as my "Life Coach" because she has guided me so much in such a short time. In the first five minutes that I met her she had me all figured out and she confronted me on being a "people pleaser" and apologizing all of the time.

I never thought that I was a people pleaser I just thought that I was a very polite individual. But after meeting my Life Coach I learned so much about my self. I learned that life should be about setting goals and being successful but ultimately life should be about doing what makes ME truly happy. So I have pondered what makes me truly happy and I have discovered that being with my friends and family make me happiest, but I also found that doing things for people also makes me very happy. Other things that make me very happy are music and dancing, even though I cannot sing or dance well. But as long as I am happy singing and dancing I shouldn’t care about what others think because I am truly happy when I sing and dance.

So after a very relaxed conversation with my Life Coach she realized that I say "I'm Sorry" way too much. She taught me that one should only apologize when they feel bad and truly feel sorry about something that they did. She explained to me that people throw around the term "I'm Sorry" way too much, and don't really mean sorry when they say it. Which I am definitely guilty of, and it is a very difficulty habit for me to break. I apologize for everything, even things that I cannot control, but why? Because my parents raised me to be a people pleaser. Not that that’s a bad thing, I could have had parents that didn't raise me at all. But apologizing all of the time for things that you cannot control gets you nowhere.

So how could one person that I met less than a week ago and spent only two days with change my life so much? By actually being a friend and listening to what I had to say. My Life Coach is one of the first people that I have come out to, I thought that it was going to be so difficult but with someone so open and understanding it was one of the easiest things that I have ever done. After I came out to my Life Coach I also came out to everyone at the conference and there was a great weight lifted off of my shoulders. And this was one of the best weekends that I had in a long time because I didn’t have to worry about pleasing anyone and I could finally be myself.

So my advice for everyone is to make your self happy. Be honest with your self and follow your heart. It makes no sense to be a "People Pleaser" if you cannot make your self happy first. Remember that you are the most important person in your life, and your life can be anything that you can dream it to be. So live everyday to the fullest and only say "Sorry" when you truly mean it.